The Courtesan Aficionado
Updated: Apr 16
I recently sent out a survey to a few gentlemen who enjoy the company of beautiful women and the titillating experiences that such a bevy of beauties have to offer. Each was sent a list of questions to mull over before their next adventure. My reason for asking was to get the new guy thinking about how the well seasoned gentleman engages with adult companions and--if he is truly interested--what he should aspire to. I also conducted the interviews out of my own curiosity. Note: All names have been removed as requested.
Q: Initially what made you interested in adult companionship?
A: "I have always been an affectionate person who derived an incredible amount of pleasure making a woman feel good, whether it was with a compliment, a hug, a kiss, or an orgasm. Sex for me has always been more of a giving thing that just for me to have an orgasm."
Q: Did a friend or colleague introduce you to the hobby or was there some other way you found out about it?
A: "For me it started when I was traveling for work to Vancouver and was looking for a massage. I did a search on the internet and an erotic massage parlor popped up. That was my first encounter with the industry."
Q: What price point did you shop at in the beginning and would you see a girl at that level now?
A: "In the beginning I was pretty naïve as far as gifts for time goes as well as the various boards and advertising web sites. At first I was looking at between $200 and $250 per hour. I will see companions at a variety of patronage levels because due to my traveling for business, I have seen the patronage vary from city to city. Patronage amount is rarely a concern for me, I need to be attracted to the person and feel that there will be chemistry during our date."
Q: How long have you been seeing adult companions and how frequently?
A: "I have been seeing adult companions now for 3 years and often see someone every other week."
Q: What do you like about the hobby?
A: "I really enjoy the relationships that I now have with a few select ladies. There is a comfort level there now as opposed to that first-time apprehension."
Q: What do you dislike?
A: "I truly dislike surprises, and by that I mean the negative kind. I have been ripped off once years ago by someone who “left to pay the driver” and have certainly learned from that mistake by doing a lot more research and only booking ladies who advertise on certain well established boards and escort malls."
Q: How can ladies make it easier for the "seasoned" gentleman to get an appointment with them?
A: "A prompt response is always highly appreciated. It doesn’t have to be within minutes, or even hours (that would be nice though), but at least within 24 hours. There’s nothing worse than being left hanging."
Q: What can a new guy do to make himself more attractive to his prospective companion?
A: "HYGEINE and HAIR REMOVAL/TRIMMING. I can’t stress enough what a turn off it is when a woman has poor hygiene when I see her, so I can only imagine that the feeling is mutual--especially with guys who have ample waistlines. I have been complimented numerous times on how clean, fresh and smooth my skin is when I see a woman, and I know they appreciate it. A woman also doesn’t want to hack through a jungle of hair to get to your little guy. A little manscaping goes a long way, Fellas!"
Q: What do ladies do that you find a complete turn off?
A: "I hate when they moan in a whining sort of way because it either sounds like they are faking it, or that they are in pain. I also don’t care for it when they smoke before, during or after, but that is my personal preference."
Q: What is/are some of the best experiences that you have had in the three years you have been seeing companions?
A: "I treated a lovely lady to a day at a spa where we both had Turkish Spa treatments. It was very relaxing and erotic, and then afterward we spent the afternoon in bed. I also tied a woman up once and toyed with her using some of her own toys. She then returned the favor once she had a chance to calm down."
Q: Have you ever done an overnight date? Why or why not?
A: "Yes I have, and the times that I have were wonderful. The evening wasn’t rushed at all, and then on all three occasions, one of us woke up during the night and decided that the other should also be up, so needless to say we had wonderfully interrupted sleep. I also love morning sex, especially waking a woman up slowly in the morning by kissing her on the neck and ears until she is squirming for more."
Q: Have you ever done a weekend-long date? Why or why not?
A: "I have never done a weekend-long date, and I can’t say that I have a reason why I haven’t. Perhaps now I will."
Q: What is the longest date you have ever booked with a companion? Why or why not?
A: "The longest date would have to be from early afternoon until lunch the following day."
Q: Does intelligence, age, height, weight, boob size, butt size, skill level, TER rankings or anything that I have not named matter to you? Why or why not?
A: "The one thing that I always look for is whether the woman likes/loves to kiss. I find that kissing, especially deep French kissing, makes the encounter far more erotic that without. I do prefer larger breasts, but have never not chosen someone for having small breasts."
Q: Do you think that sex work should be decriminalized at the level at which you engage in it? Why or why not?
A: "Yes, I think it should be decriminalized, and in fact I think it should be protected as a right of the individual if they want to engage in that activity."
Q: What are some measures that all new guys should take to protect themselves when deciding whether or not to book an adult companion?
A: "Join the various discussion boards and do a ton of research before starting out, and remember that if they do get ripped off by someone, don’t let it ruin their impression of the industry as a whole."
Q: Do you have a racial preference and why?
A: "None whatsoever. I find WOMEN sexy. Period."
Q: Is there anything additional that you would like to add?
"I may sound like some kind of authority on the hobby. I think I am a bit, but what is not shown in my answers is that my self-described expertise on the hobby comes from years of making some of the dumb mistakes I sometimes warn others about. I sometimes still make mistakes but I believe I am a well-informed client now thanks to knowing how to go about seeing someone that I know I want to see that offers the services I want from a companion."
Olivia Corvisart circa 2010
Q: Initially what made you interested in adult companionship? Did a friend or colleague introduce you or was there some other way you found out about it?
A: "Nobody introduced me to the hobby (I still hate that term but I'll use it for lack of a better one) I kind of stumbled onto some escort websites including The Erotic Review. I joined TER and kind of lurked for a while. Once I started reading the reviews and all the details of different dates with companions I knew it was only a matter of time until I would partake myself." Q: What price point did you shop at in the beginning and would you see a girl at that level now?
A: "In the beginning my price point was around $300 per hour. Having said that all my appointments in my early hobby days were either 1.5 or 2 hours. I wouldn't rule out seeing someone at that price now if her reviews and reputation are stellar, but I don't remember paying less than $400 per hour in a long time and most if not all of my meetings these days are 2.5 hours or longer." Q: How long have you been seeing adult companions and how frequently?
A: "I have been hobbying for about seven years. The amount varies depending upon a number of factors. In the summer I tend to be busier so see fewer women. I have seen two providers in one day (just to stroke my own ego I guess, I'm sure the second one was far from impressed), two in a week, and on occasion two at a time. I probably average one to two a month but some months I don't see anyone at all and some months I might see three or four women." Q: What do you like about adult companionship? What do you dislike?
A: "I'm going to tell you what I dislike about the hobby first."
"1) Public perception. People that aren't involved in this lifestyle really have no idea at all what it's like. They have their preconceived notions of the streetwalker & the shady guy that just wants a warm body to get him off. They believe that every "hooker" is a drug addict or working for some pimp. 2) Easy money seekers. If a girl gets into this only for that reason then she will never last. If you don't like men it will show, if you don't like sex it will show. Don't waste my time or money if you're only doing this for a quick buck. If you're going to be a provider you should like it. That doesn't mean you're going to like every client but you should like it more often than not. "
"Now as far as what I like, how much time do you have, lol? The thing I like most are the people. I'm talking about the women obviously. I have met some amazing women. I'm not talking about sex at all here. For me it's about the connection you make with someone. I have had great sex with a person but without any chemistry, I won't see her again. It was no one's fault, the connection just wasn't there. However when you truly make a connection with someone the physical aspect can't be anything but great. I'm sure some guys out there could care less about the connection and they are probably fine with the women of classified ads with lower rates but for me it's all about the connection."
"Variety. I agree this has the potential to sound somewhat chauvinistic so let me explain. I have met many different types of women through the hobby. Women I would probably never run into in real life. Through hobbying I have learned that people are people. Wether you are Black, White, Indian, curvaceous or a spinner, tattooed and pierced or don't have any, blonde, brunette, or redhead--we are all just people. Everyone is unique & that's what gives you either good or bad chemistry with someone. It has nothing to do with what they look like."
"Convenience. It's true. I like being able to make an appointment to see someone at at time that works for me. I like that we both know what the relationship is about. There's no confusion. Of course lines can be crossed on both sides but it's both parties responsibility to see that they aren't." Q: How can ladies make it easier for the "seasoned" gentleman to get an appointment with them?
A: "I don't have any trouble making appointments these days but I do tend to see women I have seen before for the most part. If a lady´s website is clear about what she expects from a client when she is contacted, then I think it's really up to the client to read it thoroughly and follow directions when contacting her. The only thing that bothers me when it comes to booking an appointment is when they ask for my employment information. I will not give anyone my employment information. I am a member of Preferred411.com, I have written reviews on multiple boards (although I don't write them any more), and I have numerous provider references. If that is not enough and they still want my work information then I will not be seeing them. I must however say that I do believe it is the companion´s right to ask for whatever information they want. If a client is unwilling to provide such information then there are plenty of other ladies that I'm sure they will be able to see." Q: What can a new guy do to make himself more attractive to his prospective companion?
A: "Most of all BE HONEST! Tell her you are a new guy. Tell her you have never done this before and ask her how to go about seeing her. Before my first meeting with a companion, I joined a verification site. You may have to give your employment information if you are a new guy. Ask around on the boards as well about which ladies are new guy friendly." Q: What do ladies do that you find a complete turn off?
A: "Aside from some of the very rare instances of rudeness and things like that, I would have to say gossip. It's one thing to have a casual conversation about the industry with a companion but when she starts telling me personal information about other women that I have seen and plan on seeing again it leaves a bad taste in my mouth. Also never text or call a client unless the time has been agreed upon beforehand." Q: What is/are some of the best experiences that you have had in paid adult companionship?
A: "I have had so many great experiences with companions. I have done everything from spend time off the clock with ladies to even having a relationship with a provider but one thing I was really touched by was when a woman that I see regularly took me out to dinner for my birthday. I had mentioned to her on a previous meeting that I wanted to see her on my birthday. She asked when my birthday was and I never mentioned it again but when I made our next appointment she asked if I wanted to grab a bite afterwards off the clock. She didn't mention my birthday and I didn't expect her to remember it but we went out to eat at one of those places where the staff comes over and sings to you at the end of your meal. Then when the check came she told me it was on her. It's one of my fondest memories and such a great example of the type of women that are adult companions." Q: Have you ever done an overnight date? Why or why not? Q: Have you ever done a weekend long date? Why or why not?
A: "I have never done an overnight or weekend long appointment. The truth is I just never got around to it. When I started hobbying I was married so these were not realistic options. There was a period after I was divorced where I could have done it but it just never happened. Nowadays I have a girlfriend that does not know about my extra curricular activities so I guess that might be my excuse now. I certainly hope to some day though." Q: What is the longest date you have ever booked with a lady? Why or why not?
A: "The longest date I ever booked was an eight-hour day together. Of course I had seen her numerous times before. It was from 11am-7pm although it lasted until 8pm really. Aside from the obvious activities we went to lunch and dinner as well as several other places. This was with a woman that I eventually ended up in a relationship with for a couple months. It was an amazing day and it felt like I was with a new girlfriend which is what being with a companion should feel like if the chemistry is there." Q: Does intelligence, age, height, weight, boob size, butt size, skill level, TER rankings or anything that I have not named matter to you? Why or why not?
A: "Intelligence: Absolutely. I am a college graduate, professional in my early 40's. My best experiences are when there is a connection. If we can't have an interesting conversation I'm not going to be a repeat customer."
"Age: I prefer women that are in their late 20's or older. I usually see girls in their late 20's- early 30's (as far as I can tell, you know how companion´s ages go) I've seen a couple ladies that admit to being over 40 (and look better than most half their age) but there's not that many of those around. I've always had an older women fetish (although the older I get the less that seems to be the case). I don't like younger girls. I have nothing in common with them, I'm not sure they are emotionally mature enough to be in this business and I would hate to be with anyone that was not doing this by their own free will. Plus the really young girls make me feel like a dirty old man and I like to think I'm still too young to be feeling that way."
"Height, Weight, Boob size, & Butt Size: None of these things really matter to me. I will say that I have never been with someone that I would consider fat. I have seen very curvy women--the type that wear their curves well. I have seen women with big natural boobs, women with big implants, women with average boobs, and small boobs. I like a nice butt, but who doesn't. I'll be the first to admit that I like attractive women. I also believe that attractiveness comes in many different types of features and is mostly about personality and charisma."
"Skill Level: Yes absolutely. I like good sex (is there a such thing as bad?). I don't know if I would call it skill level or they are just not into it. Maybe it's chemistry, but if the sex isn't good I'm certainly not going back. I don't in my personal life so why would I when paying a donation?"
"TER rankings: I won't rely on the numbers but I certainly read TER reviews as well as other board reviews. More so in the early days of my hobbying than recently. I read the description of the physical acts and what is offered as I have certain things I like to be offered. I think that even more importantly are the comments on what kind of woman the companion is. Her personality, how the client viewed her aside from the physical actions. I believe it is because I put so much stock in this part of the review that I have met so many great ladies."
"Twitter (I added this myself, it's a relatively new aspect to the hobby and an extremely important one to me) Twitter now puts a companion´s and client's personality on display. You can tell if they have a sense of humor, what their interests are, if they are friendly with other companions, and much more. If I see someone constantly complaining about clients I will probably avoid her. If I see someone constantly involved in drama with other women I will avoid her. If someone just seems crazy I'm definitely avoiding her. I have decided to see some women based on their Twitter personality as well as decided to not see others. I think some people forget just how public a forum Twitter is!"
Q: Do you think that sex work should be decriminalized at the level at which you engage in it? Why or why not?
A: "Of course I do, I'm a client after all! I don't think it will be though. Because most people (including myself) have way too much to lose by coming out and supporting sex workers. Is it cowardly? Perhaps a bit...yes. But the public´s misinformed and very negative perception of sex workers and their clients is just too big of an obstacle to overcome. Unfortunately most of the people needed to fight the crusade are themselves unwilling to be identified as members of the crusade. It doesn't matter that two consenting adults are participating in a victimless crime. It doesn't matter that it stimulates the economy (pun intended). It doesn't matter that when done right it puts me in a good mood for at the least the rest of the day. Regardless of the class and professionalism of the types of companions and clients that you and I may be the majority of society will always see us as a streetwalker and the pervert picking her up. Sad but true." Q: What are some measures that all new guys should take to protect themselves when entering the hobby?
A: "The main thing is to make sure you are seeing a reputable provider. How? I can only say how I did it. Join a review site or message board. Some are even free. Become a member of the community. Post on the board. There are many providers and clients that are willing to give you free advice. Make sure you want to do this. It's not for everyone. Are you mature enough to not get too emotionally attached to someone. It's harder than you might think sometimes. If you think it through and you are sure you want to do this research the provider you want to see. Is she real? Does she offer what you want? Is she new guy friendly? Then see question 6's answer. After that, have fun! You are going to meet some women that are amazing in so many more ways than you would think." Q: Do you have a racial preference and why?
A: "No. I appreciate beauty. I find beauty comes in different forms. If you could see my references on TER, you would say that there is no one type for this guy. I have seen everything from pale Irish redheads, to African-American beauties, to Asian women, and Barbie-type blondes. Now having said that, I have noticed that in my personal life I do seem to have a type. I'm sure there's a reason for that, but I don't have time to delve into the psychology of that right now."
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